Self-confidence is not something that holds me back, sa katunayan, I really appreciate the level of confidence I enjoy at nararamdaman ko na magagawa ko ang mga choices and decisions I want without a feeling of concern or over riding fear. Hindi ibig sabihin na palagi akong matagumpay, ngunit napagtanto ko na even by trying I am moving closer to a higher level of confidence.
I did not always have a high level of self-confidence. Noong bata pa ako, I had a lot of self confidence in my ability to do well in basketball and chess, ngunit medyo mababa ang tiwala ko sa kakayahan kong harapin ang mga hamon ng buhay.
Marahil ito ay sanhi ng takot ko of not measuring up to my parent’s expectations and a little bit of social shyness. Gayunpaman, habang tumatanda ako, I realized that my parents only wanted me to be healthy and to try my best at everything I did.
As a member of the big Philex Mining community (shout-out pala muna sa mga kababata kong Batang Philex), I had a lot of social interaction with people from all walks of life and I lost most of my shyness. My job also required that I respond to all different kinds of situations. The more success I had, the more my self-confidence rose.
THE POWER OF SELF-CONFIDENCE
Self-confidence or confidence in yourself means that you know that you can do whatever task you are faced with. Hindi ito nangangahulugan na dapat mong gawin ang bawat task by yourself. It means that the ones you know you can do by yourself you do and the ones where you need help you know how to find it. Confidence is a learned trait, hindi isang bagay na ipinanganak ka.
It is the force which pushes you forward and allows you to find the right path amidst the confusion and chaos of life. Confidence is the necessity you must have to assist you in realizing your dreams and goals.
Lahat tayo ay may kapangyarihan ng self-confidence within us. Sadly, marami sa ating mga Pinoy leave it unused for long periods of time while other Filipinos use it sparingly like a miser. Kalimutan ang tungkol sa past worries and build the power of self-confidence within you. Dahil hindi mo na mababago ang mga pagkakamali ng nakaraan, don’t let them spoil the present or dim the future.
DON’T HATE YOURSELF
The first thing that you must practice is “don’t hate yourself” before deciding to practice self-confidence. It is very difficult to become self-confident kung hindi mo gusto ang iyong sarili.
Tandaan, tulad ng ibang Pinoys, you were born into this world for a specific reason. Think about the things that you are good at doing. Work at becoming better at them. Huwag mag-alala tungkol sa mga bagay na hindi ka masyadong magaling. Nakausap ko ang isang successful na Pinoy recently at sinabi niya,
“Why spend your limited time here on earth working on things you are not good at. Instead, perfect the things you are good at and hire someone to do the things you are not good at.”
CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO TAKE ACTION
Mediocrity and poor performance are often due to low self-confidence, but it is not something you have to live with. Mapapaunlad mo ang iyong self-confidence by challenging yourself to act and do something. Kahit na pakiramdam mo ay kulang ka sa confidence, it doesn’t mean other people can tell.
Ang pagbuo ng good self-confidence is a wonderful thing, and it’s much easier than you’d imagine. Ang isa sa mga pinakamadaling paraan ng pag-build ng self-confidence is to “take baby steps”. What I mean by this is to set small goals or projects that you must complete.
Each time you do one in the time you have set for yourself; you will build your self-confidence. The accumulation of small “victories” will convince your subconscious mind na magagawa mo ang itinakda mong gawin. It will then convince your conscious mind that you have a lot of capabilities, and your self-confidence will grow.
Kung patuloy mong gagawin ito sa loob ng ilang buwan, you will find that your self-confidence becomes greatly improved. With improved self-confidence you can take on bigger projects and goals and as these are completed, your self-confidence will grow by leaps and bounds.
TECHNIQUES TO DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE
So, what other techniques are available to anyone wishing to develop more self-confidence?
It should be no surprise to you when I tell you that the single most influential person on your self-confidence is you, or more specifically, your mind. This probably sounds very basic but are you using your own thoughts to re-enforce your self-confidence and self-esteem?
Talk positively to yourself all the time. Become your own best friend and supporter. Encourage yourself to do more. Congratulate yourself sa bawat maliit o malaking tagumpay.
Tandaan na kakaunti ang mga taong matagumpay sa unang pagkakataon na sinubukan nilang gawin ang isang bagay. You didn’t ride a bike the first time you tried. Thomas Edison didn’t invent the light bulb on his first attempt either. It took him more than 10,000 attempts before he made the first successful light bulb, and it only lasted a few minutes.
Ang pinakamalaking bagay na dapat tandaan is that you are never defeated in doing anything you want to do until you quit. Donald Trump, during an interview, stated that he was richer than most people because he failed more times than most. However, in his case, natuto siya mula sa kanyang mga pagkakamali at sinubukang muli. Bakit? Because he was confident that he could do what he wanted to do if he just continued trying.
Wala kang pinagkaiba kay Donald Trump. Gawin ang ginawa niya. Just keep trying until you succeed. When you do, your self-confidence will soar, and you will realize that you can do anything you want to if you continue trying.
Another technique is to watch other people. Kapag nakakita ka ng isang tao that stands upright and moves with a sense of purpose, watch to see if they give you the impression that they have a lot of confidence. If they do, duplicate the physical characteristics of these confident people and you will start to gain the confidence they display.
BEWARE OF PEOPLE WHO TALK DOWN TO YOU
One thing that you must ensure that you don’t do is listen to people who talk down to you or try to tell you that you cannot do something. Kadalasan, these people can’t do these things themselves, so they try to convince others that they can’t do them either. Kung ang isang bagay na tulad nito ay patuloy na nangyayari sa iyo, tune these people out and stop associating with them.
Your inner confidence needs to be liberated from this constant barrage of negative thoughts and statements from the dream stealers around you. Your limitations are in your mind, not in your reality.
PRACTICE SELF-CONFIDENCE
Narito ang ilang mga tip for everyday practice.
- If you want to develop and build confidence, associate with positive uplifting people.
- Good people around you will help you build self-confidence.
- If you want to build up your confidence, do something new every day.
Each of these small acts will add to your confidence and make your life more enjoyable. The most sacred thing in life is self-confidence because it is the secret of all miracles.
Kapag may tiwala ka sa iyong sarili, you arouse everything that is stronger, greater, and superior in you. In consequence, the more confidence you have in yourself, the more you will attain and accomplish.
Ang isang Pinoy who knows the power of self-confidence walks a path of inner growth and achievement. With self-confidence ang isang Filipino na may mediocre ability can achieve more in life than those with exceptional talents and little self-confidence.
Supreme self-confidence is a birth right for every Pinoy so isn’t it about time you claimed yours?
Author: The Pinoy Engineer
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